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Dr. Devorah Rader’s Couples Counselling helps partners experience their relationship differently by better understanding one another, creating consideration and respect within the relationship, and working to regulate conflicts. Couples therapy can provide a safe environment to explore individual and joint needs, hurts, fears, desires, expectations, and disappointments.
Dr. Rader has created unique treatment strategies for couples in any stage of a relationship:
*Marriage
*Dating
*Pre Marital
*Gay Couples
*Divorcing Families
*Families dealing with Addiction and Recovery
*Family Relationships
*Living Situations
*Work Relationships
*Co-Dependency
When you are experiencing conflict in your relationship or have a feeling of "growing apart" seeking professional assistance will help. Couples counseling can help you and your partner reconnect and communicate clearly on a "level playing field". Dr. Rader provides an opportunity for a calm and safe environment to restore your relationship.
Dr. Devorah Rader’s Couples Counseling helps partners experience their relationship differently by better understanding one another, creating consideration and respect within the relationship, and working to regulate conflicts. Couples therapy can provide a safe environment to explore individual and joint needs, hurts, fears, desires, expectations, and disappointments.
Dr. Rader has created unique treatment strategies for couples in any stage of a relationship.
Dr. Rader’s approach to couples therapy is integrative and individualized for each couple. She helps couples determine what is getting in the way of the relationship they want, recognize the positives in the relationship, and explore the underlying assumptions and rules in the relationship. One of the most important areas addressed is the quality of communication; good communication is vital to a successful and strong relationship. In addition, Dr. Rader assists couples in finding ways to introduce more positive emotions into the relationship, create shared meaning, and implement effective methods to both listen and to be heard in the relationship. She believes that building general positivity in the relationship, which can often be accomplished by improving the couple’s friendship, is essential to ensure lasting change.
Couples Therapy assists with
- Communication and problem solving skills
- Reducing Conflict and Challenges
- Revitalizing Attraction, Deepening Intimacy
- Financial Stressors
- Sexual Difficulties
- Changing Roles, Transitions: such as retirement or new baby
- Anger Management
- Infidelities
- Challenges with child rearing
- Blended Families
- Excessive criticism, defensiveness, and/or contempt in the relationship
- Renewing Commitment
- In-laws, friends and extended family issues
- Time spent together
- Unfair fighting
- Repetitive unresolved issues
- Lack of understanding
- Having non complementary goals
- Power struggles
- Intoleration of habits
- Boundaries
- Insecurity
- Lack of trust
- Life events and Traumas
- Boredom
- Lack of appreciation
Divorce
Everyone who marries expects their marriage to be successful. However, statistically at least 20 percent of all first marriages fail within five years. Additionally, 48 percent of marriages are dissolved before they reach 20-years. This is based on data collected in 2006-2010, and compiled by the government’s National Survey of Family Growth. Separation and divorce are extremely emotional and difficult events for all parties concerned. However it is possible to have a healthy relationship with the former spouse.
Cooperation, Communication and Mediation
The end of a marriage typically results in surge of negative emotions. These can include anger, grief, anxiety and fear. Sometimes these feelings erupt when least expected. This may stun the individual and catch them at a low moment. Responses such as the ones mentioned above, are normal. In most cases, and over time, the intensity of these feelings will become weaker and weaker.. As the person is moving through this process, it is important to be kind.. Researchers have found that individuals who are compassionate, allow for mistakes, have an easier time with the daily difficulties of divorce.
Divorce is not a battle with winners and losers. It is the legal break-up of a marriage that has not succeeded. Recently, many couples are turning to divorce mediation as an alternative to a courtroom and legal proceedings. Trying to resolve issues with the soon to be ex-spouse can be frustrating and seldom result in a satisfactory arrangement. Often the problems that contributed to divorce re-emerge during mediation and negotiations. Research shows that mediation with a third objective person can be beneficial for emotional needs, relationships with the spouse and address the children’s needs.
Many people feel that speaking with the soon-to-be-ex-spouse is a low priority. Even so, communication can make divorce healthier for all parties involved. The goal of divorce mediation is to reach a mutual agreement and make coordinated decisions with a minimum of conflict.
When Kids Are Involved
Separation and divorce are some of the most traumatic experiences for children at any age. In most circumstances the children have bonded with both parents. However, some research suggests that the majority of children adjust well within a two year period. In contrast, children experience more problems when parents remain in high-conflict marriages. During separation, mediation and divorce, parents can assist the children with the transition. Most important is to keep the children away from any open conflict.
- The benefits of family therapy include:
- A better understanding of healthy boundaries and family patterns and dynamics;
- Enhanced communication;
- Improved problem solving;
- Deeper empathy;
- Reduced conflict and better anger management skills (10 Acre Ranch, 2017).
- More specifically, family therapy can improve family relationships through:
- Bringing the family together after a crisis;
- Creating honesty between family members;
- Instilling trust in family members;
- Developing a supportive family environment;
- Reducing sources of tension and stress within the family;
- Helping family members forgive each other;
- Conflict resolution for family members;
- Bringing back family members who have been isolated
As the adult, you and/or your spouse decide on the tone for the family. The children and young adults in the family will observe and learn from the adult behavior. When there is shouting or use of physically aggressive behavior as a means to deal with conflict, the children will adopt this as a way to resolve conflict and disagreements.
Developing Conflict Management Skills
- Cooperation: Teach the children to resolve the conflict together. It’s important to approach conflict in a positive manner. Children need to see that if they can work together, they can resolve problems.
- Managing Emotions: It can be very difficult for children (and some adults) to maintain their composure in a conflict situation. This is especially true when there is an accusation or blame involved. In these situations the two most common behaviors are: reacting aggressively or withdrawing completely. The best strategy is to take some time to let everyone calm down. When the emotions are all under control, it is possible to return and discuss the problem.
- Empathy: It is important to teach children how to listen,and to understand how others feel. The question they need to ask themselves is what does the other person need or want?. It is always beneficial to imagine what it is like to be in the other person’s place.
- Communication: As children grow, they need to Learn to speak clearly so that others can understand them. It is also important to always be respectful and this takes practice. Adults in the home can practice polite ways to ask for what they something need, for example; “I would like you to ask before taking my things.”
Is Your Relationship Stuck?
Dr. Rader’s approach to couples therapy is integrative and individualized for each couple. She helps couples determine what is getting in the way of the relationship they want, recognize the positives in the relationship, and explore the underlying assumptions and rules in the relationship. One of the most important areas addressed is the quality of communication; good communication is vital to a successful and strong relationship. In addition, Dr. Rader assists couples in finding ways to introduce more positive emotions into the relationship, create shared meaning, and implement effective methods to both listen and to be heard in the relationship. She believes that building general positivity in the relationship, which can often be accomplished by improving the couple’s friendship, is essential to ensure lasting change.
Couples Therapy can help with:
• Communication and problem solving skills
• Reducing Conflict and Challenges
• Revitalizing Attraction, Deepening Intimacy
• Financial Stressors
• Sexual Difficulties
• Changing Roles, Transitions: such as retirement or new baby
• Anger Management
• Infidelities
• Challenges with child rearing
• Blended Families
• Excessive criticism, defensiveness, and/or contempt in the relationship
• Renewing Commitment
Dr. Rader's approach to therapy is to relieve issues in a short term, flexible, affordable manner.
Counseling methods provide near immediate results with little or no maintenance.
Utilizing an existing therapeutic relationship, Dr Rader is able to treat a couple alongside their own personal Psychologist.
Weekday appointments available until 9pm. Weekend appointments are also available.
Phone Sessions Available.
Insurance accepted.
To schedule an appointment
or to obtain additional information
please call
310.963.1910
420 S. Beverly Dr. Ste #100-16 Beverly Hills, Ca 90212
116 N. Robertson Blvd. Suite #806 West Hollywood, CA 90048
DoctorDevorah@g